Friday, October 24, 2008

Born "Gay?" Maybe not.

Keep telling yourself that homosexuals are born that way, especially after you read this post from a Jewish man who has recovered from the homosexual lifestyle. He echoes my long-held view that homosexuality is a subconscious choice made as a coping mechanism. BTW, that sound you hear is activists screaming while putting their hands over their ears, for they cannot abide to hear that someone has gone non-homosexual:

I grew up in what psychologists call a "triadic family" -- it is so common in the backgrounds of men who struggle with homosexuality that it has a name. A distant or belittling father, an emotionally smothering or needy mother, and in the center a boy with nobody to guide him on the path to manhood. A boy for whom manhood has become dangerous, threatening, distant. A boy who grows up feeling different from other boys and men, yet yearns to connect with them, with his own masculinity.

When I was five or six years old, my cousin brought her boyfriend -- a strapping muscleman -- to a family party. I threw myself at him, climbing into his lap and onto his shoulders. He threw me in the air, wrestled me, and played with me as my father never did. I couldn't get enough. The adults were vaguely embarrassed at the intensity with which I pursued him; eventually they pulled me away to go to bed.

When I passed through the gay world years later as a young man, I saw the same thing -- men desperately trying to connect with other men. Over time, that yearning had become sexualized. In baths and gay bars, some gays dressed up as caricatures of the most macho of men. The gay community was full of men like me: boys still desperately seeking to crack the code of real manliness.

But consuming another man's masculinity can only temporarily substitute for an honest male self-image. So the search, for most gay men, becomes a series of compulsive, yet fruitless encounters.

I also like this:

In our generation those who struggle with homosexuality have the option of wrapping themselves in the gay liberation narrative. The mantle of chic victimhood quiets a lot of the inner distress -- for a while. The haunting sense of otherness folds in on itself to become a virtue. It feels wonderful to finally renounce that sense of being less than a normal man by declaring you are something else entirely.

But it's a false identity. As I saw up close, brave statements do not end the compulsive search for masculinity. There is no resolution, no revelation of true self.

The pornographic mentality of the gay subculture focuses unrelentingly on physique and external appearances, further postponing the confrontation with true inner self.

And finally (emphasis added):

People ask, "How did you change your sexual orientation?" But the language of the question betrays incorrect notions about homosexuality.

I didn't have to "change" anything. The definition of teshuva is returning to one's true self, one's soul. The sexual attraction I felt to other men was not my true nature; it was an attempt driven by my yetzer hara, my baser self, to satisfy unmet needs, a symptom of missed developmental opportunities and distorted perceptions.

The healing path for men struggling with these attractions focuses on the underlying causes. We build trusting relationships that satisfy our healthy need for male bonding in a non-sexual way. We reclaim our rejected masculinity -- renounced by us in fear and anger -- and re-enter the community of men. Through these actions, we reshape our perceptions, seeing ourselves as the authentic men our souls have always been.

Bless this man for his courage; read the whole thing.

HT: The indispensable


Mike Kirby said...

As always, information is being left out to advance a prejudged viewpoint.

I read the linked essay. And I read the followup comments, which you evidently did not. Here's one:

"There is a great UCSF-Rand Corporation study published in the 2003 National Journal of Public Health Administrators that cites the discrepency between the presence of psychosocial issues in American heterosexual households and homosexual households. It notes this discrepency does not exist in western europe and concludes that American society's homophobia is the culprit. Until religious fanatics stop telling others that they are not okay, this will continue. The question, therefore, is not whether or not David is okay, it's whether or not American society is okay."

If the problems associated with homosexuality in this culture were due to the homosexuality itself, they'd show up in every culture that has homosexuals. They don't.

Cygnus said...

The comment you cite was no more fair or balanced than the author's post or mine; the commenter is merely spouting typical homosexualist groupthink. (While indeed I did not read the comments, that particular comment did not appear until after my post anyway.)

And don't throw so-called "homophobia" at me, which as we all know is NOT defined as fear of those who are homosexual, as it should be, but the attitude of those who dare hold a different opinion than those who are "enlightened" on the subject.

Do you really think we should strive to be like Europe, which allows/promotes just about every kind of perversion under the sun, has let secular humanism become the norm, and is losing population at a preciptious rate well below replacement?

Joe of St. Thérèse said...

The majority of scientific evidence points to this kind of thing. God Bless this man for his courage, and Deo Gratias for his recovery.